A Practical Picture of Serving

Have you ever stayed in someones home and left just feeling so incredibly loved, blessed and spoiled?  I have.  It is like 5 star service that you didn't pay for and did not earn.  My kids know this well.  We have become very fond of visiting my aunt and uncle who live a few hours from us for this very reason.  When we go we sleep in very comfortable, beautiful bedrooms.  We eat wonderful meals that have been thoughtfully prepared.  We are served and told to relax and enjoy ourselves.  Our kids are welcome and not seen as nuisances.  I don't have to feel super nervous about kids running around and making messes because our hosts are not up tight about kids being there. My aunt and uncle work very hard the whole time we are there to ensure that we enjoy ourselves.  Every time we leave we have been wowed once again.

Every time I leave I think that my aunt and uncle are so very good at hospitality. I really desire to be hospitable like that!  So, I have been pondering it and have begun to see it as more than just being hospitable. You see, I have been thinking a lot about what it means to be a servant.  Especially when it comes to being a mother.  I also have a desire to teach my children what being a servant looks like so that they will learn early how to serve others.  I think my aunt and uncle have been a perfect example of serving.  They plan and prepare for their guests. They do everything they can to bless us while we are in their home and we leave feeling more full (in many ways) than when we came.  They have to lay down certain things to do that for us.  They lay down their time, energy and money to serve us.  Every fabulous meal they serve costs them.  Every bed they make up costs them.  And the list goes on.

I can take these ideas into my mothering in very practical ways.  I can lay down myself for my family. I can bless them with good food.  I can clean and teach them to clean in service to our family and those who will enter our home.  I can create beautiful spaces that are comfortable and enjoyable so that they have a tangible understanding of God's love for them.  After all, He is preparing a beautiful place for us...

It all requires me keeping the perspective that this isn't just more that I have to do in a day.  It is looking for ways that I can lay down myself and serve the family I have right now in my home.  If I can teach my children that this is how we treat other people then they will be wonderful at being hospitable and serving others when they are older. To top it all off; if my children feel loved, blessed and served in our home, then I know they will want to be here.  My hope is that they will want to bring their friends here and will want to come back often when they are grown.

My older 3 daughters and I were discussing serving the other day.  I was trying to get them to understand what serving and blessing others, who enter our home, looks like.  My aunt and uncle gave me the perfect picture and my girls got it.  They love going there and I think "putting their finger" on why they love it really helped them.  Now, perhaps my girls will keep their rooms clean so that they can serve their friends that come over with a beautiful, comfortable, CLEAN space.  One can hope right?

Sometimes we make the idea of serving too difficult.  We think we have to go on a missions trip to serve.  God calls us to serve right were we are though.  Where are you? How can you serve those people in your life today?

Have a Beautiful Day!!

He is Never Done

I am continually amazed how God works.  I think I am guilty of having tiny expectations of what He can and will do in my life.  He is really good at exceeding my wildest dreams!

Submitting to God, putting Him first and even being still and waiting on Him are all work.  It takes effort to spend time with Him.  It takes sacrifice to put Him before my own desires.  It is a challenge to continue to be still when there are so many other things that demand my action.

Oh, but He is so good that He doesn't just take what I offer Him of me. No, He gives back to me so much more than what I give Him.  I lay down my life for Him and He gives me abundant life.

When I get to the end of myself, God is so faithful to fill me to overflowing with His good and perfect gifts!

We don't stay empty.  We don't stay undone.  We are filled and He is faithful to complete the work He has started.  He will continue to take us to new levels in Him.  He is never done.

Throwing Worries

Casting the whole of your care (all your anxieties, all your worries, all your concerns, once and for all) on Him, for He cares for you affectionately and cares about you watchfully.
1 Peter 5:7 AMP


The word "casting" in this scripture, in the Greek language, literally means to "throw upon."  I don't know about you but I have gotten really good at throwing my cares and worries.  I throw them upon my husband.  I throw them upon my children.  I throw them upon my friends... 

I am convicted though, that the only one equipped to handle them correctly is my Heavenly Father.  I want to sit at His feet, knowing that He affectionately cares for me, and not just hand them over.  Rather, I want to gather up all of my cares and throw them at Him.  He is the only one capable of catching them, fully relieving me of any of their weight.  Only He can make them into something of beauty and hand me back perfect peace.

I don't want to be known as someone who opens my mouth often with complaining (because of my cares and worries).  I desire to trust God so fully that I can give Him all that concerns me. Then, when I share with anyone else the things in my life that are weighing me down, I have already taken off the weight and thrown it.  Thrown it so that my concerns change from whining and complaining into faith that my God cares so deeply for me that He wants me to hand over my worries.

Can you just see the picture?  Has your child ever had something they were concerned about?  Wouldn't you do anything and everything in your power to remove that from them?  We don't want them to be anxious or afraid.  Isn't it the same way with our Heavenly Father?  

I think I need to work on my throwing arm...

My Mom Heart Refreshed.

Anyone else ever come home from a mothering conference or MOPS or a Bible study all charged up about becoming the mom God has called you to be only to come home to crazy?  The past errors of your ways staring you in your face?  It is a journey and I am thankful for the constant reminders that bring me back to my knees.

This past weekend I went to a Mom Heart Conference and left feeling refreshed and encouraged. We can all stand to be encouraged to be better mothers so I thought I would share a few things from the conference that encouraged me:

1. Just like Jesus chose 12 men to eat, sleep, and live with, we are to disciple our children like He did.  He knew them and taught them while having relationship with them.

2. Building great memories with your kids is important.  If they enjoy being in your home then they will want to be there, want their friends there and will eventually love coming back home. 

3. You cannot pass on what you do not have yourself.  Take time to fill yourself with truth and life and then you will be able to pass it on to your children.

4. We build influence with our children by giving them time, attention, believing in their dreams, loving them no matter what and serving them as Jesus served his disciples.

5. Every mom, every woman, has a calling.  How does God want you to dream?  If you only do what you can do, without faith in God, who can do exceedingly more through you, you will be doomed to live by works.  Are you only living by fear? We are called to live by faith and trust in God.  Offer God what you have and He will bless and use it.

6. Kat from Inspired to Action shared that she was convicted about waking up to her kids when she should be waking up for her kids.  God has given our children to us and we can speak so much truth to them if we will just be ready for them and are willing to be the ones who encourage and point out in them the gifts and abilities that God has given them. 

7. Be intentional about praising your kids with character qualities.  Point out to them what you see in them that is Christ-like.

How do you make time for you so that you can be filled up and ready to serve your children?  I have learned that this is so vital to being a good mom.  You truly cannot give what you do not have!  Take time today to refuel and listen to how God would encourage you in your mothering.  He chose you above every other woman to be the mom of your children.  He doesn't make mistakes!

Perfecting Motherhood


Do you ever wonder why some moms seem to do everything perfectly?  Or why they seem to have answers for everything?  I believe that the closest we become to being a perfect mom is by continually seeking God about how to parent.  He never gives us faulty information or sends us off on wild goose chases that are a waste of our time.

If you were a new mom and you asked me how to be a good mom I would have to say don't copy anyone else.  Learn from other moms, yes.  Seek wisdom and wise counsel, yes.  Have other moms as friends that encourage, support and help you in your journey, yes!  But don't mother your child like others do just because something works for them.

In my earlier mothering years I would see moms who appeared to have it all together.  Their children seemed to always obey.  Their kids were smart, polite and well adjusted.  Any flaw in my kids was just magnified by being around them.  So I would try to copy them.  I would do what they did and read the books they read.  I would work on what they worked on and try out their techniques.  The problem was that I didn't get the results I was hoping for and the effort left me tired and frustrated.

One day, in my frustration, I decided to really seek God about why I couldn't get it all together like these other moms I knew.  God spoke very clearly to me and said "I didn't make you to be like them. Stop trying to do what they do and just seek me for what is best for you and your children."

I had been striving to be a good mom but all of my effort was causing me more pain and frustration.  My intentions were good but my methods were faulty.  I was not seeking God first in my mothering.

Now, when I hear great ideas on mothering and teaching my children, I will seek God to find out if it is right for our family to pursue these things.  I rarely get a book to read without asking God if there is something in it that will breath life into me or if it will just be something that distracts me.  I do this because my time is so limited and precious with 6 little ones.  God cares about the details of mine and my children's lives,  He knows exactly what I should and should not fill them with.  It is so easy to go off on a tangent and try many different techniques and still have it be a waste of time.

In order to be purposeful in mothering I must seek the One who knows my purpose as well as the purpose of each of my children.  Then I spend my time on the really important things.  God has always been faithful to give me answers for every single mothering dilemma I have faced to date.  He even gives me wisdom before situations become dilemmas. Sometimes it takes longer than others to get an answer but He always gives the right answer at the perfect time.

"Teach me how to live, O Lord. Lead me along the right path..."
Psalm 27:11

Love and Hugs

 I am so amazed and so grateful to those of you who have joined me here in my small little corner of the Internet.  Each of you have been a blessing to me!  I love to hear your comments, thoughts and what is happening in your own lives as I share what it going on in mine. 

I pray that today you feel as loved as you are!  I pray for you to be blessed and come to experience the fullness of God's love for you!

Have a Happy Valentine's Day with those who God has put in your life!

XOXO.

Love,

God is Good! (and a DaySpring Giveaway)


Giveaway has ended.  Congratulations to Rebekah for winning!!


God is good all the time.  It isn't just a nice thing we say in church.  It's truth.  Even when things appear to be going all wrong in our lives Our heavenly Father is at work, in the midst of the bad, for our good.  I have experienced this time and again and I believe it with my whole heart. His ways are higher than ours and He delights in the details of our lives.  My God is a good God!  I don't think I could serve a God who wasn't.

I love this Framed Canvas Print that DaySpring sent me. It is a large 21 inches long and 25 inches high and it is beautifully framed in a distressed handmade black frame. With it's bold colors, it is a daily reminder to focus on God's goodness in all circumstances. My children will look up and see this often and I know it will offer us opportunities to discuss the truth it shares.  I look forward to the daily reminder for all of us to proactively look for God's goodness.

God Is Good - Framed Canvas Print

DaySpring has a special place in my heart and has ever since I got a job working at a Christian bookstore as a teenager.  I would stock DaySpring cards and was so blessed by them that I bought lots of them to send whenever I needed a card.  To this day DaySpring cards are my favorite cards to send.  They minister to the heart and go beyond nice sayings to the truth of God's Word.

God's Heart for You - Rhodium Plated NecklaceMr. & Mrs. - Love Collection SetLove from the Center of Who You Are - Gallery Wrapped Canvas Print


DaySpring has so much more than just cards though. They have beautiful gifts, jewelry, and home items like the great print I received.

Beyond all of the lovely things they sell DaySpring also has a community of women called (in)courage that loves, supports, encourages, and shares the heart of God with other women.  I so appreciate them and I know you will enjoy them too.  Come join in the conversation here.


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CSN Stores Giveaway Winner

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Small Victories (On Daughters Becoming Friends)


You know those moments when your child does something that just makes you beam?  Well, I could not be prouder of one of my daughters and I just had to share what happened today.

This morning 2 of my older daughters and I were discussing how their younger sister, Olivia (middle child), could be "annoying and bossy."  So I shared with them how when I was growing up I had a sister, who was the baby and then got dethroned by a new sister, and became the "annoying, bossy" sister for a while. Of course back then, I just thought that was the way she was but now I realize that she wanted attention from those of us who gave it to her before she was dethroned.  She was using any means she could for attention.  Anyway, back to the present, I told my daughters that their younger sister would probably be so much easier to get along with if they would just spend quality time with her doing something that was fun for all of them.

I thought the conversations would end there and they would think about it next time they were so quick to exclude Olivia but no.  Mariah (one of the two that I had the conversation with) started planning a special afternoon for her little sis. She came to me and told me of her grand plan to do her little sisters nails, give her a makeover, help her play dress up, help her with her homework, and spend some time reading to her.

I can hear them up in the room now, laughing like crazy and having a blast. I just went up and took the photo of them above.  Who would have thought that sharing a simple thing like that could touch Mariah's heart and turn it toward her sister so quickly?!  Mariah even came to me with a serious expression after our conversation and said "I realize that we've been pretty mean to Olivia. Like I mean, really mean."

I tell my kids all the time that friends are great but family is special.  Few friends in life are lifelong friends but that your family is always there.  I so desire for my children to stop and consider the blessings that each one of our family members are to us.  Today I think they're getting a glimpse of that.  It's the small victories that bless me so much in this adventure called motherhood!

Oh, and my sister?  She's pretty fantastic and we are great friends now (Love you Sis and I am so sorry I didn't "get it" sooner!)!

An End to the Being and Doing

Usually when I post I write about something that I have learned and grasped.  Today I am writing about something I am very much in the middle of.  I know God is at work and teaching me so much.  I'd love to hear your thoughts and experience with this!  Here goes:

What if we could stop trying so hard?  What if there were no more worries in our lives that make us think we need to do better, be better, stop doing something...change?

We women are great at putting pressure on ourselves.  We don't look good enough, dress well enough, aren't educated enough, crafty enough, creative enough.  We aren't good enough daughters, friends, moms, wives.  We can't keep our homes clean enough, neat enough, cute enough.  We should be able to stay on top of it all and get it all together.  What if we can't.  What if we aren't supposed to?

What if all we are supposed to do is be at the end of ourselves? 

Hmmm... this one is hard...

We all want to get this life thing right.  Not make mistakes. Live full of love and grace.  We want to stop doing some things and start doing other things.  So we change.  We work and think and try and try as hard as we can to change.  And change comes... perhaps in small measures. Perhaps we are able to overcome and do better but I am wondering...

What is all of the effort for?

Then I hear it..."striving."
strive [strahyv] or strived, striv·ing.
To exert oneself vigorously; try hard, to make strenuous efforts toward any goal: to strive for success. To contend in opposition, battle, or any conflict; compete. To struggle vigorously, as in opposition or resistance: to strive against fate. To rival; vie.

We stand with hands open trying to grasp onto what we are here for and we grab a hold of whatever we are given.   A liar waits to hand us this thing called striving.  It is dressed in a beautiful package and looks quite appealing.  The deceit of it is that we strive for the wrong things.

I have been muling this over in my head.  I feel this tug and pull to study, to learn what it means to lay down striving. This, to me, is a scary thought.

My whole life has been striving (or so it seems).  The guilt comes and I purpose "I can. I will. I must do better!"  I see others who have their days of success and I shrink down (in my soul) wondering why I don't have it too. So then I run after the things that got them there.  "Oh, if I can just do what they did then I will have what I want too."  But then nothing. I strive, and I cannot achieve what was never meant for me. 

I see a problem and naturally I seek out a solution.  Perhaps I try a few different things but so often I fail and I wonder why I cannot get it right? 

Don't get me wrong here, diligence and hard work are certainly godly character traits to be desired.  Running the race with endurance is something we are charged with.  Races require work, striving even, BUT we are supposed to run the race.  How many things are we striving for that we were never meant to do?  Beyond that, we are not supposed to run the race in our own strength.  We could never do it!  So then how on earth could we ever successfully accomplish that which we strive for on our own?

So, I stand here, hands open to grab onto what I am here for and I hear the whispers of all that I should strive for and I remember to take every thought captive.  I remember to stay in His arms, where I cannot lead and I cannot control. I listen for the Holy,  the beautiful one, who tells me to cast all of my cares on Him.

Holy Spirit.

He's the only one who can do a work so miraculous in me that I become everything I am meant to be. He is the one who knows what I should lay down and what I should pick up. He knows all that I should do in a day and what I should never burden myself with.  He knows my frustrations, my doings, and my strivings.  He can be strength in my weakness. 

So I get to the end of myself. The end of thinking I can change me.  The end of thinking I should just try harder and I yield.  And all I do is wait.

Be still.
Rest.

Now real striving begins. Only now, I am not doing the striving.  I am surrendering, seeking first and He is changing and working and doing!  Real change!  Lasting change!  What I am really meant to do and be. 

This is where I am right now. In the middle of this work.  So many times I think I need to do..., I need to be...  And I keep coming back to these whispers of  "Let Me do. Let Me be..."






1000 Gifts: The Book I Will Beg You to Read!



I don't think I have ever begged anyone to read a book before (aside from God's Word perhaps).  But this book...it is...simply life Changing!

Please

Please

Please

read this book (can you hear the desperation in my voice?)!

Ann Voskamp's 1000 Gifts: A Dare to Live Fully Right Where You Are is a beautiful masterpiece that will take you on a journey of valleys and peaks and ends at a place that will leave you deeply moved...and shaken...and changed.  

Her writing is exquisite.  She uses her words almost as a paint brush, painting the scene before you with such beauty in the details.  Can a book of words be visually appealing?  This one is if you can use your imagination to see all that she describes.

Beyond the beautiful style of her words is the heart behind them.  The message is...well, grace.  This book is grace.  It is how grace works in our lives, how it becomes intertwined with who we are and everything we do.  If you want to walk in grace then read this book (there goes my begging again).

I seriously want to discuss every detail with you and tell you what it is all about (because it is just so very rich and SO VERY GOOD), but my words cannot do it justice.  You simply must read it!

For me, it was such a "God thing" that I read this book when I did.  My wonderful husband gave me 24 hours off and sent me to a hotel just to get a break.  I was in a place where life was pressing in really hard and I needed to get away and refocus.  I needed to spend time with God and be refreshed without the distractions of every day life with demands from 7 other people.  So I went to a hotel with my Bible, journal and my iPhone.  I had planned to be unplugged the entire time with no checking email or blogging or anything.  As I headed out to find some lunch I got this nagging urge to download this book I kept hearing about online.  I asked God about it because I thought I was just supposed to pray, read my Bible, and wait.  I kept feeling the prompting though so I downloaded the book on my Kindle app and started reading.

The 24 hours looked something like this for me: read the book, grab the Bible and look up scripture, study the scripture, worship in awe, write, back to the book, repeat.  Every thing that had been weighing me down God spoke to in that 24 hours.  Everything!

This book is for moms who are desperately trying to be the best they can be, it is for the broken, the failure, the warrior, the sad, the tired. It is for women who have lost, suffered, grieved.  It is for those who crave their Maker and those who are trying desperately to fan their flame.  It is for the strong, the enduring, the tough, the weak.

You will probably cry some tears and smile at victories.  A "yes!" might escape your lips a time or two.  The ride is so very worth the time you will give to this book.  I believe that there is a beautiful part that Our precious Lord wants to play in this lesson on grace in your life. 

I came home from my getaway soaring in my heart.  A resounding "Yes!" played in my spirit.  I can do this...this life God has given me!  I can live in it fully, right here, right now!  I can walk in grace and I can teach my children to live in grace too. 

Convinced yet?  PLEASE get this book at (In)courage or Amazon.  I promise you it will bless you more than you think!  If you'd like to join some other women in reading it then get it quickly and join in with the book club at (In)courage.  We will be discussing the book starting this Sunday, February 6th.  Ann will be there by video and we will dig in further. Please come.

Have you read the book?  I'd love to hear your thoughts too!!

CSN Stores Giveaway

This is a first for me. I am having my first giveaway ever on Purposeful Homemaker.  CSN Stores contacted me about doing a giveaway and since they have just about anything you could possibly want, from Delsey luggage to Britax Car Seats, I thought it would be lovely to offer my fabulous readers an opportunity to win a $15 gift certificate towards an item of their choice.  


Check out CSN where you can find over 200 unique sites that carry just about anything you can think of (including the kitchen sink). Talk about one stop shopping! CSN also has hassle free returns and free shipping on just about everything (some exclusions apply)!


Now for the details: One winner will receive a $15 gift code towards your pick from CSN's inventory of over 2 million products! This giveaway is open to residents of the US and Canada Only (please be aware that Canadian addresses will have international shipping charges).


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